“The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone.” -Ayn Rand
Social anxiety is a common theme that accompanies failure to launch syndrome. Sometimes it arises because of lack of confidence, lack of experience in social settings or simply the inability to communicate effectively. At Forte Strong, we help our young men to feel comfortable in social settings so they can more easily integrate into their positive peer networks and group settings. This also builds confidence in both academic and professional settings. Overcoming anxiety associated with meeting new people or being involved where interpersonal interaction might bring up the possibility of being judged is a big stepping stone for many of our students.
We have many students that are hesitant to create friendships because of the vulnerability that is involved, but we coach them to accept their vulnerability and put themselves “out there” to make their social life grow. We refer to this as taking “healthy risks”.
Video Game Addiction
“Technology is just a tool. In terms of getting the kids together and motivating them, the teacher is the most important.” -Bill Gates
With the technology that we have at our fingertips, It’s not surprising that video game addiction has become a serious problem. After all, we spend over 3 billion hours a week as a planet playing video games. 72% of citizens (6 to 44 yrs) in the United States alone, play over 18 hours a week or 3.6 hours every work day!
Video game addiction and technology addiction can become a serious issue if left untreated. Young men drop out of college or stop going altogether because they would rather play video games. Relationships suffer, personal hygiene suffers, social anxiety develops and young men get suck in a rut that is hard to get out of. At Forte Strong, our students are able to put themselves into a different environment with a different view of themselves and why it is important to be independent. We teach our young men how to utilize the technology in their lives to their benefit, instead of letting it overtake their lives. We teach them how to overcome unhealthy habits and replace them with positive habits and to maintain a healthy balance in their lives.
Building Confidence / Self-Esteem
“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” -Carlos Castaneda
Confidence is the ability in oneself to take that next step. Face that next obstacle. Conquer that next goal. Many young men today live an unfulfilling life due to fear of the unknown. They are comfortable living with their parents and coasting through life. They have a desire to be their own man and make their own decisions, but are unsure of where to start. There is a big question mark when it comes to their own future and how to get there or what steps are necessary in getting them from where they are now to where they want to be. They are afraid of failing before they even start!
At Forte Strong, we have many different avenues that build confidence. All of our young men are involved with things they have never done before. Trying new things in general, builds confidence. It helps to illustrate the capabilities and strengths of each of our young men which gives them a strong foundation of confidence that they can continually build upon! It’s always amazing to see a young man walk away from a new experience with renewed confidence in his abilities!